Thursday, December 07, 2006

We Don't Need No Stinkin' Pee Sticks

I'm back from my very quick trip to jolly old London towne. So quick, in fact, that it technically qualified as a "jaunt". What do I find upon my return? Spark and Lola have run off and gotten themselves pregnant like a coupla floozies. Congrats, ladies.

M and I, however, are avoiding HPTs like they were polonium-210. First of all, we still think it's too early for us, our beta isn't until the 16th. But also, it's quite obvious now that our chances are much less than they were before. I mean, Spark, Lola AND M can't possible ALL get pregnant the same month. Some couple has to break the cycle. Well, clearly that couple has to be us. So we'd rather not find out until we have to.

Oh - so a highlight of my trip to London was the hour I spent in a little coffee shop with the lovely and talented Thalia. She had nicely offered to have coffee with me when I was in town, and I'm sure she thought (hoped, even) that I would never actually take her up on it. But of course I did, because I'm on a mission to meet all of you. So far, I have met Serenity, Lola, and now Thalia. Anyone else want to meet? Just say the word. I'll be in San Francisco next Tue & Wed, then in NYC on Thurs. Open call.

Anyway, I very much enjoyed meeting Thalia. She clearly is a very smart, sophisticated and kind woman who has spent her life indentifying her goals and then achieving them. How difficult this IF curse must be to someone like that. I mean, it's no picnic for anyone, but I would think it must be particularly rough for someone who has spent her life executing on her plans and taking control. IF is like one giant bitch-slap.

We talked about her husband, my wife, our extended families, our careers, and our common struggles. I was working on very little sleep so I'm sure I said a handful of stupid things. But whatever, it happened in a different country so it's like it wasn't real anyway. The one question I wanted to ask but forgot: What in the name of all that is holy is a "clotted cream"? And why would someone eat it?

Thalia is sporting a couple embryos presently and could benefit from your kind words and thoughts.

M's plan is to do an HPT the night before beta, just so that we can control the news ourselves rather than have someone call us with potentially (and statistically speaking, probably) devistating news. So that's another full week. As of now, nary a symptom in sight.

Buggins said "Merry Christmas Daddy" on the phone today. That was a first.

26 comments:

Anonymous said...

Now Smarshy, don't go getting all negative Norman here. You and M could certainly still have a successful cycle. There are plenty of other women out there that cycled this month.

How cool that you met Thalia. It's always neat to hear meeting up stories.

Hope you had fun squashing your head against the window trying to see your house on the way home :)

Hopeful Mother said...

Your chances are Your chances. Not anyone else's.

Ya hear?

ms. c said...

Ya! What HM said!
Glad the jaunt to London was jolly good, and thinking about you guys.

Katie said...

Clotted cream tastes almost as good as blood pudding.

I'm wishin' and hopin' and thinkin' and prayin'......

Anonymous said...

href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Clotted_cream">Clotted Cream

Anonymous said...

Oops. That didn't work, did it. I'll try again:

Clotted Cream

That's better.

Millie said...

Hi there. I found you from Thalia's post and thought I'd stop by. And then I saw you'd be in San Francisco next week!! I will be in the lovely SFO airport for a few hours on Tuesday and if you're flying in that am, maybe we could meet up?

Hoping you and M get good news soon.

One Mother's Journey said...

I'm going to agree with hopeful mother... YOUR chances are YOUR chances.

Pee sticks are evil - avoid at all costs.

Buggins is the perfect age for Christmas this year - I'll be she'll just be perfect.

I had a hard time dealing with clotted cream - the name did me in. When I think of clots I certainly don't think of cream...

Welcome home Smarsh.

One Mother's Journey said...

Well duh... I'll be = I'll bet.

Flicka said...

Hey, a bunch of us are getting together in D.C. in early January. If we fit into your quest, you could knock a whole bunch of us off the list all at once. My site has the details, such as they are right now.

And hey...good luck with the HPT. I'm wishing you both the best.

Rumour Miller said...

I'll think positive thoughts for you.

And heck ya, I'd like to meet... but I live in Canada (the freaking cold part) and I am not sophisticated nor am I samrt.... (well maybe I am just a little). We had relatives in Nashua, NH and visited Boston once, but they got wise and moved back to Canada (kidding, totally kidding).

Fingers and toes crossed until the 16th for you.

How wonderful to hear Merry Christmas from your Buggins.

Mony said...

I said the same to her......meeting Thalia MUST bring you & M good luck!


....you owe me a visit by the way. I have been a comment whore over here!

Melissa said...

What a fabulous post. Seriously-clotted creme, pee sticks, and Christmas...It doesn't get better than that. And Treggles, even with the picture and description, I'm still not sold on the idea! Anyway smarsh, hope this Christmas is fabulous with the little Buggins, and I REALLY REALLY REALLY hope that more than anything-your beta is fabulous!

Anonymous said...

That sounds like a very sensible plan. I'll expect peestick revisions as/when/if they occur.

Also, I'm sure you can find a few couples who didn't get pregnant this cycle to up your chances again. Maybe you should ask your clinic? I'm sure they'd put you in touch with as many as are necessary to bring you into statistical certainty. And don't listen to what the others are saying - we all know that's *exactly* how statistics work.

Bea

Anonymous said...

Hey Bro
Next time you are in London I'd love to hook up for some beers.

I'd echo everything that has been expressed before, your chances are your chances.

Heres hoping amigo

Anonymous said...

Agreed with PPs - your chances are your chances, no one else's. But I TOTALLY get the superstition. The only time I got a BFP, I didn't pee on a stick until AFTER the beta. (Just to see what a BFP looked like.) Subsequent cycles I've POAS before the beta = BFN.

So I'm defintiely not gonna be testing before my beta next time we do a cycle. Because, you know, testing before the beta means a BFN.

Yeah.

So I'm feelin' ya on the pee stick thing.

Anonymous said...

Now you listen up, no getting negative on us.

In my mind, just the fact that I have a positive pee stick in my hand (well, not right this minute - gross) gives you and M an even better chance of getting one yourself. We DID have our transfers the same week with the same Re, remember? I choose to look at it as the Re was having a good week when he did our transfers.

Glad to hear London was fun and how wonderful to meet Thalia! That has to be good luck as well. I love London, I miss the pubs.

Is your beta on the 15th? I may see you there in the morning if it is.

I know it's cheesy but I really do have every appendage crossed for you and M and I have every hope that you will get your Christmas wish.

Anonymous said...

Now you listen up, no getting negative on us.

In my mind, just the fact that I have a positive pee stick in my hand (well, not right this minute - gross) gives you and M an even better chance of getting one yourself. We DID have our transfers the same week with the same Re, remember? I choose to look at it as the Re was having a good week when he did our transfers.

Glad to hear London was fun and how wonderful to meet Thalia! That has to be good luck as well. I love London, I miss the pubs.

Is your beta on the 15th? I may see you there in the morning if it is.

I know it's cheesy but I really do have every appendage crossed for you and M and I have every hope that you will get your Christmas wish.

Anonymous said...

Now you listen up, no getting negative on us.

In my mind, just the fact that I have a positive pee stick in my hand (well, not right this minute - gross) gives you and M an even better chance of getting one yourself. We DID have our transfers the same week with the same Re, remember? I choose to look at it as the Re was having a good week when he did our transfers.

Glad to hear London was fun and how wonderful to meet Thalia! That has to be good luck as well. I love London, I miss the pubs.

Is your beta on the 15th? I may see you there in the morning if it is.

I know it's cheesy but I really do have every appendage crossed for you and M and I have every hope that you will get your Christmas wish.

Anonymous said...

Now you listen up, no getting negative on us.

In my mind, just the fact that I have a positive pee stick in my hand (well, not right this minute - gross) gives you and M an even better chance of getting one yourself. We DID have our transfers the same week with the same Re, remember? I choose to look at it as the Re was having a good week when he did our transfers.

Glad to hear London was fun and how wonderful to meet Thalia! That has to be good luck as well. I love London, I miss the pubs.

Is your beta on the 15th? I may see you there in the morning if it is.

I know it's cheesy but I really do have every appendage crossed for you and M and I have every hope that you will get your Christmas wish.

Anonymous said...

Now you listen up, no getting negative on us.

In my mind, just the fact that I have a positive pee stick in my hand (well, not right this minute - gross) gives you and M an even better chance of getting one yourself. We DID have our transfers the same week with the same Re, remember? I choose to look at it as the Re was having a good week when he did our transfers.

Glad to hear London was fun and how wonderful to meet Thalia! That has to be good luck as well. I love London, I miss the pubs.

Is your beta on the 15th? I may see you there in the morning if it is.

I know it's cheesy but I really do have every appendage crossed for you and M and I have every hope that you will get your Christmas wish.

Anonymous said...

Now you listen up, no getting negative on us.

In my mind, just the fact that I have a positive pee stick in my hand (well, not right this minute - gross) gives you and M an even better chance of getting one yourself. We DID have our transfers the same week with the same Re, remember? I choose to look at it as the Re was having a good week when he did our transfers.

Glad to hear London was fun and how wonderful to meet Thalia! That has to be good luck as well. I love London, I miss the pubs.

Is your beta on the 15th? I may see you there in the morning if it is.

I know it's cheesy but I really do have every appendage crossed for you and M and I have every hope that you will get your Christmas wish.

Anonymous said...

Now you listen up, no getting negative on us.

In my mind, just the fact that I have a positive pee stick in my hand (well, not right this minute - gross) gives you and M an even better chance of getting one yourself. We DID have our transfers the same week with the same Re, remember? I choose to look at it as the Re was having a good week when he did our transfers.

Glad to hear London was fun and how wonderful to meet Thalia! That has to be good luck as well. I love London, I miss the pubs.

Is your beta on the 15th? I may see you there in the morning if it is.

I know it's cheesy but I really do have every appendage crossed for you and M and I have every hope that you will get your Christmas wish.

Anonymous said...

Now you listen up, no getting negative on us.

In my mind, just the fact that I have a positive pee stick in my hand (well, not right this minute - gross) gives you and M an even better chance of getting one yourself. We DID have our transfers the same week with the same Re, remember? I choose to look at it as the Re was having a good week when he did our transfers.

Glad to hear London was fun and how wonderful to meet Thalia! That has to be good luck as well. I love London, I miss the pubs.

Is your beta on the 15th? I may see you there in the morning if it is.

I know it's cheesy but I really do have every appendage crossed for you and M and I have every hope that you will get your Christmas wish.

Anonymous said...

Lola that was such a sweet post - each time. ;)

Personally I'm disappointed that I have to wait sooooo long to hear your results...but since it's not all about ME....I wish you the best of luck when the time comes!!! Enjoy your week!
-Kristi

Anonymous said...

um. why are there like 35 of the same posts from me?

no clue why that happened!
sorry for the blog clutter, Smarsh!